If there is one thing that every homeschooling mom can agree on, it’s the fact that we need encouragement.
For some reason, attached to the title of being a homeschooling mom is the stigma of being super woman, super woman, or Perfect patty. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
I’m a homeschooling mom to four blessings and I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have it all together.
Some days are better than others, and there are some days that are just plum hard. Take into consideration a given season I’m in and those hard days can turn into hard weeks.
This is where encouragement kicks in. I want to share some tried and true bits of advice that continue to help me keep going, especially when I need it most.
Remember to Be Mom First
You’d think this was a given, but think about it. How often do we get caught up in having to be our kiddos’ teacher, or chauffeur, or cook, and so on?
Somewhere along the lines we begin to trade in cuddles and hugs for lesson plans and unit studies. Our focus subconsciously gets diverted to having the right curriculum and being a part of the right homeschool COOP.
While there is nothing wrong with making sure all those ducks are in a row, we need to remember to be mom first.
Some days, if not most, our children will benefit more from unplanned outside time and a walk rather than a stack of worksheets and books to read.
This also takes the pressure off of us feeling like we need to measure up to some super homeschool mom status. It helps us get to the point of being perfectly okay with simply being a mom.
Embrace the Hard Days
Although I give the advice so freely, it is still something I am still coming to terms with. Taking the time to plan out a day only for it to get turned upside down can put a damper in anyone’s journey.
But, I’m here to tell you mom that it’s all okay. I know it’s easier said than done; however, it really makes it better when we can embrace the hard days.
I have an entire chapter in my book, Just for Today’s Homeschooling Mom, dedicated to these hard days because for some reason we allow them to dictate whether we are doing a good job, or not.
Something to keep in mind is that hard days do not get the final say (unless you allow them to). And just in case you think you’re the only one having hard days – you’re not.
I find encouragement in knowing that hard days help to not only reveal more about myself, but also become opportunities to show my children how to deal with them.
Simply put, hard days are part of the journey. Despite the hardships, they journey remains worthwhile.
Ask for Help
I have lost count of the number of times a mom will start a question off with, “I know this may sound crazy…” or “I hope this doesn’t seem silly to ask, but…” or even “I don’t want to ask this, but…”
This is another area where we as homeschooling moms have been led to believe that it’s taboo to do it. I’m talking about asking for help.
There are tons of homeschool support groups, books, conferences, and the like – but for some reason, we still feel awkward when using the “h” word.
The fact of the matter is it’s okay to admit that we are dealing with the struggles that come with homeschooling. In fact, if you don’t find yourself needing help at some point in time, I’d be willing to say you’re crazy!
Be encouraged to know that there are people out there willing to help you. Don’t be afraid to ask, and don’t be resistant to accepting it. Sure, there are some Judge Judy’s out there. Just ignore them and keep right on going.
Homeschool YOUR Way
This has become my new motto as of recent days because it wraps it all up. At the end of the day you know what’s best for your family, your children, and the way you need to homeschool.
The only “right way” to homeschool is to do it your way.
Yes, there are laws depending on the state or country you live in, but when it’s all said and done, you are your child’s greatest and best influence, and you know what it best.
May you be encouraged to walk boldly in your calling as a homeschooling mom. Always keep in mind you are awesome, amazing, and wonderful!
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Michelle Huddleston is a wife, homeschooling mom, author, speaker, and Home Education specialist. She desires to help other women learn how to live confidently unapologetically authentic. Co-owner of With the Huddlestons, Michelle and her husband Bryan offer a range of tools, resources, and support for today’s homeschooling families including an online Academy with live eCourses. Join their online homeschooling community Facebook group Outta’ Box Homeschooling, and take advantage of the free online COOP program offered there!