Like many others out there in the Catholic blogosphere, I have been rocked by the Supreme Court decision last Friday. I really never realized before how much it would rattle me. The victory call of “Love has won!” aggravated me. What did love have to do with it, really? The decision was not one of love, true love did not ever enter the equation. We have lost our sense of love. We confuse attraction for love, excitement for compatibility, and sexual pleasure for commitment. However, when we got down to the nitty gritty of the law, we realize that our society has forgotten love and what true, unending, unfailing, sacrificial love is.
Are there same-sex couples who are loving and devoted to each other? Surely there are. Just as a deep friendship is a love that two share. The truest definition of love is God. He loves not only be complete surrender of Himself for good, but also by Creation. God loves all people, He rejoices in the creation of each new soul no matter how imperfect. The problem is not that all are not to be loved, that some should not experience love, nor that pursuit of happiness should not include love. The problem is how do we define love and the realistic and legal implications of creating laws based on feelings and desires instead of the common good. Even if you argue that the redefinition of marriage is for the common good, consider for a moment the flood gate that is opened by basing a culture on the chemical reactions of attraction–who is to say now what is right and wrong? I see this as right because of my feelings of joy, therefore it cannot be wrong.
One commenter on one of the many articles I have read about this decision asked what the big deal was because love was just a bunch of chemical reactions in the brain. Let me say I have read a lot and read through all the comments. However, the reduction of the greatest force of the universe to a few chemical reactions shows that we have lost our grip on true love and don’t even know what we are fighting over. Love is a choice, never a feeling. Love is serving God through others, it is not about what I feel or want but what others will benefit.
I may be rambling, but in the midst of this, I wanted to share the top five articles that I have read that epitomize the Catholic position on the matter. None of them have to do with hate. The rejection of another’s love is not hate. I am choosing to love as Christ did and respect all peoples no matter whether I agree with them or not. That does not mean that I must accept their truths as the Truth. In the spirit of Love, let us read and understand the Truth that was created by Love itself, Our Risen LORD!
1. An article that explores the legal and liberty implications of the Supreme Court decision : Why Four Justices Were Against the Huge Supreme Court Decision.
2. A blog post by an average Catholic Mom about what average Catholic moms are really feeling about this decision–here’s a hint, it’s not hate!– Explaining a Few Things
3. The fear of persecution is real for those who oppose “gay marriage”– White Martyrdom, Red Martyrdom, and a Rainbow
4. Father Barron always has a deeply theological but gentle answer--We’ve Been Here Before
5. Msgr Pope explains the effects of this new right on the Catholic Church– Things are Going to Get Very Tough
Let us all pray for the preservation and respect for sacred vocations, both religious and marriage. God bless.
Linking up with Jenna at Call Her Happy for #5Faves.